When Will This Virus End?

As far as I can see the end isn’t in sight. It looked possible when things were shut down, but once things began to re-open, it got scary.

Now we’re being asked to wear masks. That seems the least we can do to help stop the spread of a virulent virus for which there is no vaccine. Still people are resistant.

I wear a mask to protect others. I hope others wear one to protect me. I am one of the high risk population. I don’t want to stay sheltered in my house, but it may be necessary since others don’t care about me like I care about them.

I have purchased masks so that I can wash them and still have a mask to wear. I have different types and not all are easy to wear. It certainly has taken practice to be able to wear one without inducing a panic attack. I also have a shield, which may help those of you who simply cannot do a mask.

Since I want to see an end to the virus, I wear a mask. What are you willing to do to end this virus? I couldn’t live with myself if I didn’t wear my mask and someone died because I was asymptomatic carrier of the virus. Can you?

I hear all kinds of excuses for not wearing a mask, I am going to say if they are true and most of the time they’re not, the risks you take are less then the ones you take for not wearing one. That was a run on sentence. My English teacher and editor friends will be appalled.

I will do what it takes to see an end to this virus.

Love, Peace and Light! Rita


The Elusive Sleep

I wish sleep came naturally to me. One would think it should be a natural phenomenon, but still I wake up at odd hours during the night.

It is getting better for me though since I began an anxiety medication. Still I awaken. I guess short of knocking me out, I will always awaken.

I don’t have to get up to go to the restroom in the middle of the night any longer, so that’s not the issue. Losing weight has helped with not putting pressure on my bladder.

I think maybe the daily exercise might be helping some too. Still nothing keeps me asleep.

Maybe I am just built to be a light sleeper. Something in my genes to keep me alive. Though lately my husband has been able to come to bed without awakening me.

I don’t know what’s up. That’s not usual for me. Perhaps things are changing. Still I wake up two or three times during the night.

Love, Peace and Light! Rita


I Am Not My Disease

Someone said I identify as my disease. I don’t but it does impact me in everything I do.

When I posted this picture I said I couldn’t walk due to vertigo and migraine, but I managed to shower and get dressed. That was when the comment was made.

I talk about accomplishments and setbacks to help others. I don’t hide my disability, nor do I hide behind it. I have good days and bad days.

I am open and honest about having balance issues and about the need to sometimes stay in bed. I was lucky my rescue med kicked the migraine to the background after a short nap and I was able to get up.

Unfortunately, it lingered all day and I ended up in bed super early. It was difficult to get there, because the vertigo returned. I could tell it wasn’t Meniere’s vertigo because I could actually close my eyes.

Unfortunately, I was wide awake by midnight. LOL!

Love, Peace and Light! Rita


Keeping Cool

With temperatures in the triple digits, I am thankful for air conditioning. I know many people don’t have it. I don’t know how they cope without it.

In Ohio I had a tiny house with a window AC, but it did it’s job during the day. And it typically cooled off enough at night that a fan was sufficient. In Vegas I need both. Thankfully it’s central air.

I wear shorts and dresses to keep cool during the summer.

Aside from dresses they are the easiest things to put on to keep cool in the summer. I also love my linen pants.

With stay the virus still in effect I have been building my wardrobe around comfort, but still trying to look good.

Love, Peace and Light! Rita


Passion vs Anger

What does it mean to have passion? Passion is any powerful or compelling emotion or feeling, as love or hate. … a person toward whom one feels strong love or sexual desire. a strong or extravagant fondness, enthusiasm, or desire for anything: a passion for music.

Personally I think it’s more powerful to be passionate about something if you can keep anger out of it. Anger is a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility.


I think when you’re angry you close yourself down to dialogue. You won’t consider anyone’s point of view except your own. You really can’t even hear it because all that anger has the blood rushing to your head. Unfortunately, your anger puts others off from listening to your point of view too.

How can you be passionate without being angry?


  1. Express your opinion without assigning blame. Even the appearance of attacking someone or their beliefs in the course of expressing your own can make you seem hostile and angry. …
  2. Get creative when expressing your enthusiasm. …
  3. Be careful with criticism. …
  4. Respond carefully when you’re hurt. …
  5. Know when NOT to respond.

I think my mom’s advice comes in handy whenever I get angry. She always said to count to five before I responded. It has served me well when I have done it.

So while anger may be a form of passion, it’s a negative type. One that won’t work in your favor. It will only reach others who think like you do. I am sure if you are passionate about something you want everyone to be passionate about it too, so anger won’t serve you at all.

I have noticed so much anger on Social Media lately, but the people who get through to me are the people who discuss and teach me things that I didn’t know. The ones yelling at me that I need to think like them… well I just scroll on by, unless I feel argumentative. Even then I just try to present facts and keep my emotions out of it. Then I stop engaging when I see that they cannot hear me through their yelling. Even on my own wall when people try to argue, I try to remain calm. It’s not always easy. If I post something it’s because I believe it. I can learn and change my mind if I am wrong. That is rare, especially if it goes against my basic morals.

Be passionate, but try not to get angry about others not sharing your passion. I do get sad sometimes, though.

Love, Peace and Light! Rita



Where do you get inspiration?

I need inspiration in many areas of my life. Writing, painting, fashion, being a good person. As you may have guessed most of my inspiration comes from my friends and family. The people I chose to surround myself with. You know two of my mentors have recently passed on, but the lessons I learned from them live on.

I gather my inspiration from people, nature, books, pictures and life. Basically everything is fair game in giving me inspiration. Inspiration is not copying. It’s simply providing ideas and making them your own. Clothing can be copied if you can find the same outfit, but we all wear things differently. Even when I take the painting classes, everyone’s art comes out different even though we were instructed to do it the same.

There is one place I forgot to say that I find inspiration… especially in my writing. That is in my dreams. I don’t want to know what Stephen King dreams about.

Where do you find inspiration? Love, Peace and Light! Rita


How Are You?

Those three little words are asked all the time. Do you tell people how you really feel? I tend to be honest, but even I realize not everyone is interested in hearing about my balance issues or all my aches and pains. So rather than lying, I shrug and say about the same as usual or some such nonsense.

“Let’s tell the truth to people. When people ask, ‘How are you?’ have the nerve sometimes to answer truthfully. You must know, however, that people will start avoiding you because, they, too, have knees that pain them and heads that hurt and they don’t want to know about yours. But think of it this way: If people avoid you, you will have more time to meditate and do fine research on a cure for whatever truly afflicts you.” – Maya Angelou

A friend of mine posted a quote by Maya Angelou that got me thinking… if you’re not interested in the answer, then you shouldn’t ask the question. Instead you should cultivate a new greeting that doesn’t require an answer.

What can you say instead? You look lovely… What if they don’t? Sometimes I look like I feel, not often, but occasionally. Maybe just a simple hello. If you feel the need to ask a question, perhaps “What have you been up to lately?” The answer won’t make anyone uncomfortable.

How do you handle greetings? Love, Peace and Light! Rita



Stress is a feeling of emotional or physical tension. It can come from any event or thought that makes you feel frustrated, angry, or nervous. Stress is your body’s reaction to a challenge or demand. In short bursts, stress can be positive, such as when it helps you avoid danger or meet a deadline. But when stress lasts for a long time, it may harm your health.

I think most of us are feeling some stress now. How could we not? There is a virus, the country is starting to reopen, but nothing is normal. Many people are still not working. There is social injustice rallies going on. It’s getting hard to voice your own opinion without people jumping all over you. It doesn’t matter what side you’re on… someone is bound to get angry with you. It stressful!

I have been trying to not watch the news as it stresses me out. That’s not to say I am not aware of what’s going on. I will stick to my basic philosophy and continue to treat everyone as human. If I see injustice I will speak up and try to stop it as I have in the past. I am not silent. I will never be silent. It’s why I became a social worker many years ago.

Still I have been stressed. It’s affecting me. I know it has to be affecting others. What are you doing to alleviate the stress?

I am still walking daily. And I am writing, though I had been avoiding as I am in the rewriting stage. So I am making myself do it. I just bought some paints so that is on the agenda. And lots of binge watching…

Love, Peace and Light! Rita


Rainbow 🌈 Challenge

In a style group I am in someone recommended we wear a color of the rainbow for each day of the week last week. To me it’s in honor of Gay Pride Month. As an Ally, I want to support my friends and family in the community. Red, Yellow, Orange, Green, Blue, Indigo and Violet (ROY G BIV). Some days were easier than others.

Red, Orange and Yellow were easy… Green, unless I wanted to dress for St. Patrick’s Day was harder. Blue, I had a few things, including my indigo which was borderline royal blue & of course denim is supposed to be indigo. Violet was really hard. My necklace has an amethyst gemstone which is all I could come up with for 100 degree weather, so I threw in a photo from this past winter/spring when it was cooler.

I managed to dress in rainbow colors everyday, sometimes with wardrobe changes. And once a blast from the past.

I have come to the conclusion that I need more purple in my life.

My husband bought this tee which goes with the rainbow theme and the message I would like to convey when dealing with others.


Love, Peace and Light! Rita


Still Walking Daily

Ralph, the dogs and I are still walking everyday during the lockdown. The lockdown isn’t so much of a lockdown anymore, but everything isn’t back to normal.

I think the pups love having their daddy home.

I know I like having him home, but he needs to work. I think basically only interacting with me isn’t enough stimulation for my husband. So we get up and walk whether we feel like it or not.

Sometimes our walks are short. Sometimes they’re longer. It’s getting hot in Vegas so we must walk early. It was nicer when we were able to stay in bed later, but we can’t burn little dog paws.

Do you walk? I find it enjoyable most days. There are sometimes that it’s a chore to get out of bed due to my health issues.

Love, Peace and Light! Rita